Smeagol used to be a hobbit — a somewhat dwarf-like humanoid race that has large, hairy feet — but discovers a ring of power that quickly poisons his mind and has him become obsessed, leading to the infamous catch phrase, “Much like Smeagol, some women become obsessed and possessed with their boyfriend.
But when the man and woman are not in the same age group, men usually make the first move at work.
So it seems to me that the cluelessness of men when it comes to reading sexual overtones is actually on a spectrum, and the more extreme their abilities are in the high-IQ side of the brain, the more extreme their inability to read nonverbal sexual cues will be.
(And this explains why the conversation about this research on the geek-genius blog Slashdot is so spunky.) 2.
And it is totally normal for people to tell you not to act on it.
And it is totally normal to throw caution to the wind.