Don’t make the mistake of dwelling on what has already happened in your life so far; dating after 40 is no different to dating after 20.
While a woman will be interested to find out about your past, it’s what is happening between you and her right now and what may happen in the future that is most interest to her.
Baggage can be anything from on-going divorce proceedings, having children who live with them or commitments related to an ex-wife or family.
Honesty is always the best policy, if not for the fact that when it comes to dating after 40, most women are looking for the real deal.
“Everybody thought this was a little phase, that I was just having a crisis.” But friends and family came around to accepting the couple after they’d been dating for a year and it became clear that Sutherland had serious intentions.
In April 2010, they had an intimate beachside wedding in Hawaii, and they now have a 6-year-old son, Marek.
Instead, she will see it as part of who you are and will respect you for it, as long as you come across in a way that shows you are balanced, have everything under control and you’re able to live a fun, interesting lifestyle as a result.
Yet, a man’s attractiveness to women is mostly based on the personality traits and behaviors that he displays to her during an interaction, rather than on his looks.
“Older men tend to become cruel over time, and [Marcus] was so refreshing,” Wipp, who lives in Detroit, tells The Post.
“[Younger men] don’t have the weight of the world [on their shoulders] yet.” But initially, Wipp held off on dating Sutherland because she was wary of the numbers on his driver’s license. I really had a mental struggle dating someone younger than me,” she says.
However, a mistake that some men make is “off-loading” their entire life story onto a woman they’re supposed to be getting to know on a date.
A woman who is attracted to you and interested in dating you won’t always see everything that comes with you as being unattractive baggage.