When your nearest neighbors could be a mile away and your community is teeny-tiny, you learn how form connections with other people But while she’s chatty and outgoing, she’s also the first one to be ready to leave the party.She’s the one who loves to spend all day at home when I have to get out for a few hours and be around people.Neither of us is what typically comes to mind when you think of an extrovert or an introvert… I bring this up because it’s very easy to fall back into stereotypes about introverts and extroverts.Everybody has ideas of what makes an introvert or an extrovert, or what they’re like…They’re most comfortable when they’re interacting with people in one-on-one settings rather than trying to take part in some grand gathering.Introverts actively enjoy having some alone-time to just chill out.Moving to areas where I didn’t have an immediate social circle meant that I had to learn how to be on my own until I found a new group of friends.But while I’m need to socialize; I alternate between getting literally twitchy with nervous energy and spates of depression when I’m stuck on my own.
In my case, it was born from necessity; growing up, most of my interests were either solitary (like reading) or uncommon (anime, comic books, computers) in my immediate social circle and I didn’t have anyone to share them with.
Most of my favorite activities involves getting together with groups of friends and hanging out, whether recording podcasts, at parties or having folks over to watch Archer and Venture Brothers.
My wife, on the other hand, grew up in Dog’s Ass, Nowhere.
Well meaning extroverts may see introverts as being desperately lonely or in need of someone to break them out of their shell like a manic-pixie social worker when in reality, they’re .
Meanwhile, because extroverts prefer group activities and enjoy the company of others, they can often seem flighty or even insecure to introverts; many people assume that extroverts are inherently less intellectual or even actively often have a hard time not slipping into viewing their behavior through those pesky lenses.