This a cowardly way to handle the situation and nothing short of him growing a set of balls and leaving is going to change that fact.
I have been getting a few emails from people (particularly men) wondering if is only for married women seeking married men, the short answer to this question is No :-).
The other woman can’t call him or see him when she wants to.
Eventually those sneaky late night phone calls end abruptly with “I gotta go!
Unfortunately, even if she is not ready to admit it, her subconscious desire is for him to make the dream come true, and leave his wife.
Finding someone to fill the void is much deeper than any feelings he has for the side chick. A lover of fine wine and food, I tend to break the bank of those who can handle me.
Building a life with someone with constant progression and growth is necessary for a healthy relationship.
Just because he says he loves her does not mean that he will do what it takes to prove it to her.
This in turn will make the other woman feel even more humiliated as she thought he didn’t like his wife like that.
If she expresses it, he already has his reasoning – 1) she knew he was married, and 2) he never said he was leaving his wife.