#7: Use Online Dating When Traditional Dating Is Not Working I think traditional dating should be your first option.It’s more ideal to sit down with a real person and get to know someone.You are making a serious step forward in being very active and not passive in your hopes to find a spouse. If you are going to meet someone you met online for the first time, it’s not a bad idea to bring a friend along.The danger here is that once you start pressing forward, you might press forward too hard and compromise since you want to find a Christian spouse so bad. I know online dating might be embarrassing for some (even though it shouldn’t be). If the person you are dating is solid, he (or she) will respect your concern for safety and appreciate the effort you are putting in to find a solid spouse. Will you probably jump way ahead in your mind, imagining if this person will make a good dad to your 3 children named Heather, Austin, and Frank? But then come back to reality and live with realistic expectations.
So if you decide to give online dating a chance, you have to know yourself. Do you really think everyone online is there with good intentions?
If you know you have a history of picking guys who are handsome over honoring, rich over respectful, or charismatic over Christ-centered, then you need to be very careful online dating.
If you are a guy who instantly maxes out the credit cards when a pretty girl gives you attention, again, you need to be extra cautious when mingling online. If you lack discretion, if you are not known for your discernment, or if you are easily wowed by surface information, then online dating might not be for you.
If the relationship ends, you accomplished the goal of dating because you’ve learned this person is not the one for you. But if I had to put a number on it, I personally think a healthy dating season is around a year or two.
It might seem like a waste of time if you dated someone and then broke up; but if through dating this person you learned he or she is not your future spouse, then you did not waste your time. You want to give yourself enough time to really get to know this person.